bestpickup:

did you just watch Star Wars because Yoda one for me

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chickenchaomian:

i feel these are three things people often confuse themselves with. But, I don’t blame them. Maybe it’s too arrogant of me to say that I can tell the difference between them. Well, let’s just say that in the right state of mind, anyone can tell the difference. So if you’re reading this, craving to love, be in love or be loved, please hear my two cents on this.

So, let’s begin, to love. If you’re craving to love someone, the need inside you to pour out whatever you feel, don’t. Please don’t. To love and to love alone is not enough to “justify” what you’re about to do. Personally, I think the feeling inside you is purely superficial, and not enough to go on. If you want to love, love things like your family. The constant want to love someone is just probably a phase. You might be saying, “fuckin’ chickenchaomian how the fuck do you know what i’m feeling?” Well, it’s happening all around me. People who fall too hard because they “love” someone. People who crave to love. If you’re doing exactly what I’ve said, I’m not in the position to tell you “hey stop”, but I am in the position to suggest to you, “is this what you really want in life? “Loving” someone is more than just the feeling inside you to want to love, it’s the companionship, that spark that’s enough to say, yeah he/she’s the one.“ If you want me to summarise, think whether you’re just being desperate or if the feeling is from the heart.

Now, you might be saying like “fuck this shit you don’t make sense”. Well hear me out because this part probably helps to elaborate my point in part one. What is it to be in love? Well, is seeing that cute guy/girl across the class enough to set things off? Well, yeah of course. But please know, please, it’s not enough to keep a relationship. I’m sure it may seem obvious that you need to get to know the person better. But people often take things way too fast. While blinded by infatuation, people do not see how foolish they are. Maybe it’s just the people I know but if we’re all human, i’m sure someone else on the other side of the planet is doing the exact same thing. Is it wrong? No, I don’t blame you. I’ve done it before too and it’s honestly just not understanding the feelings inside you thoroughly.

So what’s the difference between loving and being in love? Well, to love is to lust in the superficial aspects of a person while to be in love is to appreciate the person’s vices wholeheartedly. Everyone has their vices/flaws. Until you can appreciate the ugliest side of someone, will you see their prettiest. I hope you understand, clearly, the difference between the two.

So this brings me to my last point, wanting to be loved. This third one ties in with the first two because I feel, when someone feels this, he/she often puts him/herself out there. What I mean by putting themselves out there is, like my first point, trying to love someone so as to hopefully attain love back. Well, that’s the hope at least. Does it work? Well…not often. The only time it works I feel is when you’re truly in love with someone. If you’ve been focusing, you’d know that’s point two on being in love with someone.

So, what’s the point of that chickenchaomian? Well, although I just started this blog today, I seriously hope I shed some light on this. Because this confusion harms people more than they think. So if you’ve reached this far, no i’m not going to ask for a follow or a like just for sharing my two cents. All i’m going to say is that, if you wish to find your significant other, be patient. Love yourself first, fall in love with yourself. Only then will you start to understand your feelings and satisfy the feeling inside you to be loved.

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